My mother, Cynthia Ray, passed away on November 1, 2010, and not only did I lose someone very dear to me, but also my source for inspiration to help others. However, I would say that I have personally lost more than just the best mother I could ask for. We loved each other like mother and son, but also butted heads at times like brother and sister, and were able to speak with one another like great friends. Whenever I have had to deal with strife or issues, she would be there to listen, or help in whatever way she could. Earlier this year, in April, my wife and I had lost our child, who was stillborn. Our family was devastated, but my mother was the most excited when we announced she was pregnant, and the news of what happened had broke her heart. We all grieved together, and my wife and I were blessed when we had found out that we were expecting again. My mother was excited all over again. She was there for us, providing advice and attended both ultrasounds that announced the sex of the baby. My wife is just over six months pregnant, and our daughter will know that her grandmother loved her more than anything in this world. I am saddened by the fact that she will not be able to hold her, but I know that she is with the Lord, taking care of our son in Heaven.
I also believe that the loss is felt by many more than just myself, as she has touched many lives over her life, and with her career, has made an impact in many others. My mother served the homeless community as a case manager for Information & Referral, and her position was based in Harmony House. I believe that she was commonly thought of as tough, but fair. However, I know that this was because she did not look down upon any person, and had the same expectations that would be afforded anyone else. She treated everyone that walked through their doors with respect and dignity, and many lives have been changed with her dedication to her job.
Everyone close to her knows that she had made great strides to improve her life, and had accomplished much in recent years. I'm so proud of the changes she had made for herself, and she was proof of just how much a person can accomplish if motivated or driven to change their life. I know there are many that mourn her passing, including myself. I have lost my mother as well as my friend. However, I wish for people to celebrate the life that she had led, because she was an amazing person that affected many lives during the time that she was given. She is no longer suffering due to health issues, and is now with the Lord and her grandson. I know you're in a better place, but we love and miss you.